Attachment Styles Quiz
Attachment Styles Quiz
About the Attachment Styles Quiz
Attachment theory describes the patterns people tend to fall into in close relationships — how we seek closeness, respond to distance, and handle conflict. This 10-question self-check takes about three minutes and scores how strongly your answers lean anxious and avoidant. Your result is one of four commonly described patterns — secure, anxious, avoidant, or disorganized — or “mixed” if you don’t lean strongly either way. It is a starting point for reflection, not a diagnosis.
How it works
- Answer each question honestly, thinking about how you usually feel and act — not how you wish you did.
- There are no right or wrong answers, and it takes about three minutes.
- At the end you see your anxious and avoidant scores (each out of 25), the pattern they point to, and what it tends to look like day to day.
The four patterns, in plain language
- Secure: generally comfortable with closeness and with independence; tends to trust others and talk through problems.
- Anxious: wants closeness and can worry about a partner pulling away; may seek frequent reassurance.
- Avoidant: values independence and can feel uneasy with too much closeness; may pull back when things get intense.
- Disorganized: wants closeness but also fears it, so reactions can swing between seeking and avoiding connection.
- Patterns can change. Most people show a mix, and attachment styles can shift over time with awareness, supportive relationships, or therapy.
Ways to use it
Self-reflection
Notice which situations bring out your pattern — and write about it.
Conversations with a partner
Taking it separately and comparing results can open an honest, low-pressure conversation.
Going deeper
Our Attachment Styles companion workbook includes reflection prompts and exercises that build on the quiz.
Frequently asked questions
Is this a diagnosis?
No. It is a short self-check for reflection. It cannot diagnose anything.
Can my attachment style change?
Yes. Many people become more secure over time.
What if my results bring up difficult feelings?
That is normal. If you are struggling, talking with a licensed counselor or therapist can help.